A Nigerian vendor specializing in wedding accessories, Osuchukwu Jane Ezeakolam, recently shared a story about refunding a bride who called off her wedding just three weeks before the big day. The cancellation was prompted by the groom’s refusal to financially support the wedding preparations.
Jane explained that the bride had booked and fully paid for her wedding dress after setting the date. However, when the wedding week arrived, the bride never came to collect the gown, and attempts to reach her were unsuccessful as her phone was switched off.
About a month later, the bride finally reached out to explain that she had canceled the wedding because her fiancé declined to contribute any money toward the expenses. Whenever she reminded him about costs like food and drinks, he insisted she cover everything herself.
In a heartfelt Facebook post dated September 17, Jane recounted the situation, advising women never to finance their own weddings under any circumstances. She wrote, “This bride came, booked her gown, and paid in full after confirming the wedding date. We always require a fixed date before reserving gowns. But as time passed, the groom refused to handle his responsibilities. He left all the arrangements to her, even after she had made partial payments to the decorator, cake vendor, and venue.”
Jane continued, “When the list for drinks and food was presented, the groom told her to pay for those too. Eventually, she confided in her family about the situation. The groom never visited her family, which is a traditional expectation, and with less than three weeks to the wedding, he remained absent. The bride was heartbroken and cried, but the fiancé stayed silent. Summoning her strength, she called off the wedding. Shockingly, the groom never asked why she canceled; he simply walked away.”
Jane added that the bride’s phone was unreachable during the wedding week, unlike other brides who came to collect their gowns. After a month, the bride contacted Jane to explain everything. Moved by her story, Jane promptly refunded the 80,000 Naira deposit, unlike other vendors who refused to return advance payments.
“My advice to young women preparing for marriage is this: unless your partner is fully committed and contributing equally, never pay for your own wedding or bride price,” Jane emphasized. “I’ve seen men mock their wives for paying their bride price, calling them desperate. It’s better for a man to borrow money to marry you than for you to fund your own bride price.”
Jane reflected on the broader issue, questioning what men truly want. “If a wife supports her husband-to-be, some men say she’s doing too much. If she doesn’t, it’s a problem. What exactly do they expect?” she asked. She cautioned women to support their partners but to recognize when they are overextending themselves, as men may later accuse them of doing too much.
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